This is a day to honor all of the fathers who have helped shape their children in many and wonderful ways. Today I want to give a shout out to my husband the dedicated coach, chauffeur, homework king and always present dad to our two precious children.
And I want to give a shout out to both of my children’s birth fathers too. We were so fortunate that for both of our children, their birth fathers were present and held them in their arms moments after birth.
Much respect and admiration go to these birth fathers who still know, love and connect with their young adult birth children today.
I used to think that a young, unmarried expecting father would be relieved when the expecting mom was considering adoption. I no longer describe them as relieved. Rather, I witnessed both of my children’s birth fathers to be involved and thoughtful and very much part of the adoption plan. I witnessed the love they carried for that child and their heavy hearts. I also witnessed their pride and joy.
I have learned from each of my children that their birth father matters a great deal to them. They love to identify with him and learn about him. This does not mean that they love their dad, the man who raised them, any less. They just want to fill in that piece of themselves that comes from their biological father.
HAPPY FATHERS DAY to all the fathers in our lives – each of my children are blessed with the relationships they hold dear with both their dad and their birth father. There is no such thing as too much love.
These photos of my children’s birth fathers holding them is one of the many gifts of open adoption. The last picture is my husband with our beautiful children.
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